Is important if we want to influence the outcome of our interactions with others. This is necessary if we wish to have our intentions turn into reality, in the quickest and least offencive way. After all people remember us not because of what we say but how we make them feel.
The UK newspaper The Times quotes Daniel Goleman talking about toxic and nourishing behaviours, and interestingly the health benefits attributed to reducing the number of toxic interactions that you partake in.
Toxic behaviours are those that make us feel devalued, frustrated, bullied or angry. Nourishing behaviours help us encourage open mindness, empathy and the feeling of being valued. Toxic behaviour repels people and nourishing behaviours attract people to you. If you want people to do the things you want, you must at first attract them. You must then invest the time to deepen and maintain a healthy relationship.
Invest in the emotional bank account you have with others because you can never be sure when you will need a withdrawal.
At first glance, it can be assumed that Social Intelligence is just a new name for making people feel good or a heightened way of expressing empathy. I don't believe that this is the case at all. I do understand however, that the concept of Social Intelligence isn't new. Recent definitions are encouraging us to consider how we build healthy relationships with others so that they cooperate with us.
This is an invaluable skill and has far reaching consequences in the way that we conduct our personal and professional lives. Social Intelligence may be a method of applying our IQ, and EQ, and other personality traits on a subconscious level to the way we interact with others. Are objective would be to encourage win-win situations in our lives so that our likelihood of personal success increases.
Take care
Judith
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